Ever felt like 2 people in the same body?
Recovery from addictions …. It is a sweet life, the recovery life!
Do you ever get mad when someone doesn’t shut up, gets off topic and rambles in a meeting? Does your behavior come out sideways and you act like . . . a brat without a recovery filter.
Is this you?
Look around to find another like minded person; you both grimace, shaking your head as your eyes roll skyward.
Get super fidgety and disrupt those around you. Don’t blame it on being ADHD.
Make derogatory remarks about the speaker to another (you presume to be) kindred spirit next to you.
Take the speaker’s inventory and decide she/he is an idiot.
Subconsciously feel superior and self-righteous inside with a bloated puffy chest of hot energy spewing everywhere.
Perfect … this is good. You recognize that you are acting exactly the same as the person speaking.
Whenever you have a major negative reaction to something or someone, it is one of your ancient resentment triggers that need attention NOW.
3 Simple Steps to Resolve a Resentment in 3 Minutes.
Look up and give thanks to the speaker for giving you an opportunity to grow a little bit more in your recovery today.
You shifted your focus from self superiority to empathy for the speaker.
Take a “big atta girl, atta boy” pat on the back! Fantastic. Congratulations!
What does you remaining in recovery have in common with Serena Williams winning the calendar Grand Slam? Nerves!!
Tennis Coach Bollettieri’s Tips for tennis:
Change the pace a little bit; relax.
Let your anger be released, and be ready to play the next point.
Mirroring Coach Bollettieri’s tennis performance to control your nerves in recovery!
Addiction Recovery Coach Penny’s Tips for recovery:
Take a step back, take a deep breath, feel some space between you and your raw nerves.
This is simply a stunning 4 minute video! Below are a few lines that really hit home to me in my own recovery journey.
What do you relate to in your recovery?
All addictions start with pain and end in pain. Eckhart Tolle
I drank to keep away the pain of not winning golf tournaments, not making the cuts, constant backseat quarterbacks telling me what I should do. All that noise of failure was screeching in my head … ‘GO AWAY’.
Keith Richards from the Rolling Stones, heroin addict, remarked ‘all the contortions we go through just not to be ourselves for a few hours’.
Partying and not giving a fuck about anything was the dress I wore to hide from me. Actually I was just numb for a little while; what you do in a blackout stays in a blackout. I just did not want to know ?
The attempt of the escape from pain creates more pain.
How did I get that black eye?
How do you remove the pain?
A sense of compassion from somebody; only when compassion is present will a person allow themselves to see the truth. You have to be with the pain, but you have to have the support to be with it.
I give thanks to a dear friend whose compassionate face filled with concern while standing two inches from my face telling me to go to a recovery meeting. I saw my truth in that face instantly. The next weekend I began my recovery journey.
Every day I carry this tradition of compassion in my recovery work. private coaching
Recovery is about a whole lot of mini pauses to check in and take a ‘chill-pill’ allowing you to pull out a tool to keep you going in a smooth groove … to finish … to feel accomplished … to give yourself an ‘atta girl/atta guy’!